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Statistics about Rape and Abuse

Somewhere in America, a woman is sexually assaulted every 2 minutes, according to the U.S. Department of Justice.

What Constitutes Child Sexual Abuse?

Listed below are a few examples of what constitutes child sexual abuse. Often some victims are unaware of the full impact of what happened to them as a child - it is not until later in life that the full impact becomes apparent. What should be clear in the mind of the victim is that it was sexual abuse.

Myths and Facts about Sexual Abuse

Looking at the list below, we can see some common Myths - things that are not true but are often believed. So where do these myths come from and how can we disprove them to our peers who may believe them?

Should I Forgive?

Many times during my healing journey I have heard people talking about forgiveness, with some expressing the opinion that you will not be healed until you can forgive your abuser. If I'd come across that opinion at the beginning of my healing, I don't know whether I'd be where I am today. Because to me, forgiveness would mean telling the people who hurt me, "It's okay that you did that." And that's something I'll never do.

Panic Attacks, Flashbacks and Triggers

Many survivors of sexual trauma suffer from panic attacks, often accompanied by flashbacks. Panic attacks and flashbacks can be triggered by anything and everything.

You are not alone!

It wasn't your fault. Abusers rely on their victims' feelings of guilt and shame to keep their secret safe. By speaking out, we can help to overcome our own memories and perhaps stop rape and abuse happening so frequently. I refuse to be silent.

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RIP Patrick Barr 1958 – 2009

It is with regret that we announce the sad passing of Patrick Barr, former founder member of Safe Haven and my previous husband, on 23rd April 2009. Patrick died very suddenly at his home in Cardiff which he shared with his partner of two years and their respective sons. Although Patrick and I had our differences in the last few years, I had enormous respect for his strength of will and courage in facing his own issues and reaching out to other survivors. He will be greatly missed by many, including his son, Simon. Anyone wishing for more details can feel free to email me.