“Stepping Out of Shame and Into the Future”

A relaxed and friendly environment where we will come together to learn, share and support each other.

Aims:

• Break out of isolation and meet others in a safe space
• Understanding the impact of the past on today
• Giving back the shame of the abuse
• Rebuilding trust after betrayal for better relationships
• Gaining support around attraction and sexuality
• Acquire insight into re-empowerment and boundary setting
• Develop strategies for a hopeful future
• Safe for Survivors: Relevant for Partners and Professionals

The workshop contains no graphic details of past abuse

Date:  Saturday 24^th March 2012
Time: 2.00 pm – 5.00 pm

Venue:  Kensington High Street, London W8

Cost: £35/£30/£25 (includes refreshments and handouts)

Concessions for partners/unemployed/students/groups

The workshop is led by a Survivor and all Facilitators are professionally trained in counselling and group facilitation.

BACP and ACC ethics apply.

Comments by people who have attended our past workshops:

“Wonderful and so inspiring”

“You were able to put into words the things I have had to overcome”

“My partner’s understanding of my situation was greatly helped”  

“I found the session helpful in my professional development”

Email Rebecca at info@intothelight.org.uk  or see www.intothelight.org.uk

Now, looking back, I think his favourite part
Was waiting there, lips curled as if to mock;
watching despair cast hooks into my heart
when I found the door was closed and locked.

My stocism was a point of pride
amidst the shame. The thought of it sustains
me even now: “At least I never cried.”
The pain is done now, but one thing remains:

Just the locked door, ever representing
hopes dashed, dreams smashed, no happy endings.

More information from USA Today

The previous statute was 85 years old and defines rape purely as “carnal knowledge of a female forcibly and against her will.”

The new rape definition will define rape as any forcible penetration of another person. This brings it in line with the British definition which has been in place since 2003, which defines rape as the oral, anal or vaginal penetration of a victim without consent.

This is great news for male victim advocates who have been lobbying for this change for years. The change in law should present judges with a wider range of sentencing options against male-on-male rapists.

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Eyes of a demon reflect indignation
persisting resisting eternal damnation
reality haunts you
morality taunts you
death’s dark and tainted with glorification

You push and you push
Until the rages flood
And violence plagues me.

We fight and we fight
Until I hate myself
And all these things plague me.

I only want to love you,
I’ve only always cared,
And dissensions plague me.